The interplay of these two emotions is interesting.
The fact about Greed and Fear is that there is no situation where fear exists without Greed or Desire.
Fear of losing out in career exists only bcoz there is greed of making it to the top. Fear of death exist only bcoz there is a desire to live. Fear of losing a loved one exists only bcoz there is desire to receive love.
Mothers have been using this understanding as their ultimate weapon for ages. My nephew likes to play with cars. He very rarely misbehaves with his mother. But whenever he does, reminding him that he may not get his new car is all it takes to set him straight.
If you look into the history, you will find countless examples where few people have successfully played with these basic emotions to their advantage and have created a mass followings.
In corporate world, successful leaders know and use this trick very well. Incentives, bonuses, esops are just ways of instilling fear by showing greed. Some slog coz they need their jobs and fear losing it...some slog coz that year end bonus is too attractive to miss out on.
Whatever instance you take, the trick to instill fear is simple .... "Breed Greed".
Friday, May 26, 2006
Tuesday, May 23, 2006
Mentor
Are all the bosses in this world alike? I mean do all of them have bosses like me who are self centered, who lack vision in life and who expect you to be totally unlike them. My boss wants me to have vision for my own role..yeah. To me this statement sounds like "Dude, I am a dumb idot and not competent to guide you well. You are on your own. Do some good work so that i can win praise from my own boss in turn".
Anyway, had another usless day in office. If I have to place a fingure on the common problem my generation is facing today I ll say its "Lack of Ambition and Direction". We don't know what we exactly wanna do.
We want to be successful and excel in life. We don't lack talent and skills to succeed. But....we are not clear what we want to do.
Thats why we need mentors in life. But my mentor seeks mentoring from me.
Anyway, had another usless day in office. If I have to place a fingure on the common problem my generation is facing today I ll say its "Lack of Ambition and Direction". We don't know what we exactly wanna do.
We want to be successful and excel in life. We don't lack talent and skills to succeed. But....we are not clear what we want to do.
Thats why we need mentors in life. But my mentor seeks mentoring from me.
Sunday, May 21, 2006
The Essence of Love
Today's Sunday Times is carrying an article on "Why girls fall for married men?"
It said, married men have a aura of confidence and emotional stability which attract girls. And its not that only girls get attracted to married men. I know guys who are also who find married women (read mature and emotionally stable) more attractive. These women are "Thinking Men's Goddess". They are way too attractive compared to those snooty fancy college girl types. In my opinion men who get attracted to these college girl types invariably realize that they have been chasing something ephemeral, which is going to die out sooner rather than later.
No i am not promoting extra marital affairs by any chance. It’s not necessary that a mature and emotionally stable woman have to be necessarily married. The reference to married men / women here is just to emphasize on the qualities these people have that make them attractive....
A strong relationship is a result of comfort two people share with each other. And according to me it comes only with maturity of thoughts and emotional stability.
It said, married men have a aura of confidence and emotional stability which attract girls. And its not that only girls get attracted to married men. I know guys who are also who find married women (read mature and emotionally stable) more attractive. These women are "Thinking Men's Goddess". They are way too attractive compared to those snooty fancy college girl types. In my opinion men who get attracted to these college girl types invariably realize that they have been chasing something ephemeral, which is going to die out sooner rather than later.
No i am not promoting extra marital affairs by any chance. It’s not necessary that a mature and emotionally stable woman have to be necessarily married. The reference to married men / women here is just to emphasize on the qualities these people have that make them attractive....
A strong relationship is a result of comfort two people share with each other. And according to me it comes only with maturity of thoughts and emotional stability.
Saturday, May 20, 2006
Friends
They say this about Friendship..that
"IT is like susu in your pants, others can just see the wetness, but its only you can feel its warmth."
I made a few good friends when i came new to this city. But over these years, in this mad rush of reaching somewhere in life, i lost touch with few of them.
RK: My first buddy from Rajeha. I met him on the first day of my college here. Lot of things to say about him...a cool and a relaxed guy, had a lot of patience to bear my strange stories and narrations. He was the one who coaxed me to give a rose on the Rose Day and was mad at me, coz i cud not muster enough courage to speak to "the Lady" ever again.
Have no clue when and how i lost touch with him.
PS: I don't know if i bear him more or he bears me more.. He is crazy about US and everything that is related to US. Is equally mad about Nike T shirts, Levis Jeans, perfumes, Nike shoes, Nike caps. His philosophy is life..Aim for Car if want the motorcycle..Aim for Girl's mom if you want "......". anyways...I cannot lose touch with him even if i want to. He wont let me.
HS: Why everyone finds him snobbish in the first impression i still don know. I passed my TY because of this guy. An ardent follower of spirituality...equally crazy about brands..and doesn't know how to count beyond 0..if you don't believe me, ask him how many girlfriends he has? I bet he' ll say "0". U see, he doesn't know how to count beyond that.
MM: I must have exchanged more words with her online than face to face. May be the ratio would be 1000 times to 1. An interesting person with interesting interests..Books, Vipasanna, Yoga, Trekking, Movies, Rock Music, Surfing and Advertising. She talks very intelligently (Trait rare in girls). Her idea of an ideal date - Going on a trek. (I like trekking as well. Wish i had told her this)
This blog is my idea of remembereing them.
Disclaimer: Hey buddies. This is just my version of your personalities. If you think otherwise....Write it in your own blog.
"IT is like susu in your pants, others can just see the wetness, but its only you can feel its warmth."
I made a few good friends when i came new to this city. But over these years, in this mad rush of reaching somewhere in life, i lost touch with few of them.
RK: My first buddy from Rajeha. I met him on the first day of my college here. Lot of things to say about him...a cool and a relaxed guy, had a lot of patience to bear my strange stories and narrations. He was the one who coaxed me to give a rose on the Rose Day and was mad at me, coz i cud not muster enough courage to speak to "the Lady" ever again.
Have no clue when and how i lost touch with him.
PS: I don't know if i bear him more or he bears me more.. He is crazy about US and everything that is related to US. Is equally mad about Nike T shirts, Levis Jeans, perfumes, Nike shoes, Nike caps. His philosophy is life..Aim for Car if want the motorcycle..Aim for Girl's mom if you want "......". anyways...I cannot lose touch with him even if i want to. He wont let me.
HS: Why everyone finds him snobbish in the first impression i still don know. I passed my TY because of this guy. An ardent follower of spirituality...equally crazy about brands..and doesn't know how to count beyond 0..if you don't believe me, ask him how many girlfriends he has? I bet he' ll say "0". U see, he doesn't know how to count beyond that.
MM: I must have exchanged more words with her online than face to face. May be the ratio would be 1000 times to 1. An interesting person with interesting interests..Books, Vipasanna, Yoga, Trekking, Movies, Rock Music, Surfing and Advertising. She talks very intelligently (Trait rare in girls). Her idea of an ideal date - Going on a trek. (I like trekking as well. Wish i had told her this)
This blog is my idea of remembereing them.
Disclaimer: Hey buddies. This is just my version of your personalities. If you think otherwise....Write it in your own blog.
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